As a fan of Shonda Rimes and all that she embodies, I had to catch Bridgerton, the new series on Netflix, produced by Shondaland.
Ah, the romance, the gowns, the scenery, the diversity, and JULIE ANDREW’S voice as Lady Whistledown narrating the story’s latest revelations and scandals! What more could you ask for?
One topic of the show that has caught my attention is how sex, in relation to women, is handled during that time period.
Obviously, in the time period of the show, a woman’s worth was based on many external factors, meaning: family status, beauty, and her virtue…
AKA, her virginity.
Only a respectable woman will wait for her deflowering to be on her wedding night.
Any sooner, or in the wrong way, and she has been defiled, bringing shame upon her family.
An act that is so natural, is defined as acceptable under one light, and dirty under another.
Daphne Bridgerton, the main character, starts the show with her being introduced into society in order to get married. Her dream is to start her own family one day.
But she knows nothing about sex, or even how babies are made!
Right before her wedding to the Duke, her mother attempts to have a conversation with her about “martial relations” but the words “vagina” and “penis” never get said out loud.
Any hint of what sex is, Daphne gets from the Duke.
And she had to ask her maid exactly how she can become pregnant.
In another part of the show, Daphne’s younger sister, Eloise, conspires with her best friend, Penelope, trying to figure out how babies are made, so that they don’t end up in a situation like Marina Thompson (who is pregnant, but isn’t married or engaged or being courted).
This show hints at how sex is kept hidden from women until the very last second. Or even when it’s too late.
I’m not shocked to find out that sex was a taboo topic in those days.
What this show has made me reflect on is how sex is STILL a taboo today. We haven’t been able to move on from double standards, feeling embarrassed or shameful when sex is brought up. Not to mention, all the false facts out there that many people believe.
Learning to deconstruct thoughts and feelings about sex and then build them back up again is no small feat. Especially when it’s a whole society that needs to do it.
But if we start individually, and then with loved ones, it can eventually happen.
What has been your favorite part about Bridgerton?