Bridgerton’s Secrets

As a fan of Shonda Rimes and all that she embodies, I had to catch Bridgerton, the new series on Netflix, produced by Shondaland.

Ah, the romance, the gowns, the scenery, the diversity, and JULIE ANDREW’S voice as Lady Whistledown narrating the story’s latest revelations and scandals! What more could you ask for?

One topic of the show that has caught my attention is how sex, in relation to women, is handled during that time period.

Obviously, in the time period of the show, a woman’s worth was based on many external factors, meaning: family status, beauty, and her virtue…

AKA, her virginity.

Only a respectable woman will wait for her deflowering to be on her wedding night.

Any sooner, or in the wrong way, and she has been defiled, bringing shame upon her family.

An act that is so natural, is defined as acceptable under one light, and dirty under another.

Daphne Bridgerton, the main character, starts the show with her being introduced into society in order to get married. Her dream is to start her own family one day.

But she knows nothing about sex, or even how babies are made!

Right before her wedding to the Duke, her mother attempts to have a conversation with her about “martial relations” but the words “vagina” and “penis” never get said out loud.

Any hint of what sex is, Daphne gets from the Duke.

And she had to ask her maid exactly how she can become pregnant.

In another part of the show, Daphne’s younger sister, Eloise, conspires with her best friend, Penelope, trying to figure out how babies are made, so that they don’t end up in a situation like Marina Thompson (who is pregnant, but isn’t married or engaged or being courted).

This show hints at how sex is kept hidden from women until the very last second. Or even when it’s too late.

I’m not shocked to find out that sex was a taboo topic in those days.

What this show has made me reflect on is how sex is STILL a taboo today. We haven’t been able to move on from double standards, feeling embarrassed or shameful when sex is brought up. Not to mention, all the false facts out there that many people believe.

Learning to deconstruct thoughts and feelings about sex and then build them back up again is no small feat. Especially when it’s a whole society that needs to do it.

But if we start individually, and then with loved ones, it can eventually happen.

What has been your favorite part about Bridgerton?

Wakanda Forever and a Hope for Embracing Culture

With the passing of Chadwick Boseman on Friday, I was thinking about how much I loved the Black Panther movie and I wanted to share some thoughts.

Black Panther is my absolute favorite, and in my opinion, the best, Marvel movie that has come out thus far.

There are so many reasons why it’s such a great film and deserved the recognition it received.

The majority black cast. How the story connected to the anti-black problems in the world. It’s depiction of smart and strong black women. Plus, to my writing pleasure, the crafting of the story itself.

But one of my most favorite things is the incorporation of African culture in the film.

It’s an amazing depiction of how rich, detailed and colorful African culture is that brings an added element to the film and Black Panther’s character that’s not shown in other Marvel movies.

I love how even though Wakanda is a technologically advanced city, it still has ties to the African culture through it’s traditions, dress and language.

It makes me wish that the United States honored all the cultures that we have a little more and that we don’t have to wait for the capitalist/consumerism culture we live in to tell us when certain ethnic styles are “in”.

Like, when will it not be jarring for people of color to embrace their cultural traditions in the way they dress, no matter what position they hold in their career?

Because let’s face it, we are not all there yet. Black, Latin, Asian, etc. cultures still get scrutinized in mainstream media. Why can it just be normal and not a statement?

Anyway, I just loved how Black Panther embraced it all and didn’t water down the culture aspect to appease white viewers . (We all know that’s the demographic that gets considered and is worried about the most when a film or show gets created that doesn’t feature a white person as a main character.)

What did you like about Black Panther? Are you still excited to see Black Panther 2?


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