I Love Alone Time & Alone Time Loves Me

A lot of unfortunate things have happened during quarantine and because of quarantine. But for me, one of the things I’ve been enjoying is the alone time I have at home.

Seriously, I’m wondering how I’m going to schedule regular social activities with all the alone time I’ve gotten used to. Because the list of things I do when I have time to myself has gotten pretty long already.

For example, lately I have been:

  • Reading
  • Following the moon phases using my Moon Planner
  • Editing my book (crossing my fingers to release a full version this year!)
  • Working out (Running, yoga, Blogilates videos)
  • Crocheting characters from Harry Potter (pics at the end of the post!)
  • Reading tarot
  • Meditating
  • Doing The Chakras Activity Book & Journal
  • Figuring out what to write for this blog 😬
  • Trying out different brands of pistachio ice cream – I’m seeing pistachio food everywhere now, are you?
  • Doing my best to keep up with current movies and shows

Plus, soon we are putting a bathtub in and I already bought a couple Lush bath bombs and planning what I’m going to do while taking bath. Can’t wait!

If you’re spending more time alone recently, what have you been doing?

Favorite Books of 2020

As a fan of books and reading, I decided to round up my favorite books I read in 2020. Maybe I can inspire your reading for next year!

Here’s my list:

Macho! By Victor Villaseñor:

I talked about this book earlier this year in my post, Brown Reflections. It’s still one of my favorites of the year and should really be read in school, at least in California.

Parable of the Sower by Octavia Butler:

I heard about Octavia Butler earlier this year and couldn’t wait to read one of her books, especially since I realized I haven’t read too many sci-fi books by Black authors. Plus, she’s from Pasadena, CA. This one hit maybe too close to home, especially with what has happened this year, but it was really good.

Mexican Gothic by Silvana Moreno-Garcia:

I absolutely could not put this book down… but I forced myself to because I wanted to savor every scene in it. It was perfect from beginning to end and so satisfyingly horrific. Unexpectedly, I also was able to relate my ancestry to the setting of the book. Needless to say, I can’t wait to read another book by this author. I also picked up Gods of Jade and Shadow, which will be my next read.

Women Who Run With the Wolves by Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes

To be honest, I haven’t finished this book yet, but I can already say, this is a MUST READ. It’s a book that dissects fairy tales and myths to show how a women’s spirit and soul can flourish and what prevents it from living it’s full potential. I’m surprised by how many tales I’m familiar with so far, and can also relate to a lot of what she analyzes. This is unlike any spiritual book I’ve ever read. I highly recommend.

Did you discover any new favorite books this year? Are there any books you’re looking forward to reading next year?

Horror is as What Society Does

In the spirit of Halloween, on Saturday I watched It: Chapter 2. I had been meaning to see it, since I saw It: Chapter 1. Plus, I read the book about 6-7 years ago and wanted to see how the adaptation went.

I like to dive into a horror film every once in a while, especially if it’s been well received. I think horror should be taken more seriously as a genre than it has been historically because horror, once you get past the jump scares, is most notably a commentary of what’s happening in our society. Probably more-so than dramas or historical films. (Here’s an interesting argument for The Purge franchise, one I haven’t seen but I’ve heard the plot.)

But because it’s such a specific genre, like fantasy and sci-fi, it doesn’t get much recognition by the Academy Awards.

If you haven’t read It, Stephen King goes back and forth between the main characters (their group is called the Losers) as kids, meeting and fighting It for the first time, and as adults, when It awakes again and they come together and kill it for good.

In the most recent adaptation, the book is split into two movies: Chapter 1 for when they’re kids, and Chapter 2 for when they’re adults.

Part of the mythology about It that you learn as you read/watch, is that It comes to life every 27 years. After it wreaks havoc in Derry, feeding on the children, it goes away to sleep. Remarkably, the town forgets the tragedies it went through and write them off as some other cause or find someone to blame.

In Chapter 2, we find that the Losers have moved away from Derry and they’re living their own lives. When they are brought back together, most of them can’t remember what happened the summer they were tormented by It.

Mike, the only one who didn’t leave Derry, is also the only one who remembers what they went through and has to remind them. By keeping tabs on what was happening in the town, he was the one who recognized that It was back 27 years later and rounded up the group again so they could fight and kill it, once and for all.

This phenomena of Derry residents forgetting the tragedies that happened in their town can be related to how we’ve been dealing with racism in America for the past 400 years and how we shift our focus towards and away from systemic racism every time an egregious killing happens.

The story of another Black person being killed by police comes and goes on our news feeds and our TVs. We are shocked again and again by how deeply rooted racism is in our country.

We’re realizing that our thoughts and prayers aren’t going to cut it if there’s going to be real change towards driving out systemic racism and white supremacy. It’s been great to see people educating themselves, protesting, donating to causes, and spreading the word.

But we can’t stop.

We cannot become complacent. Our attention has to be focused on ending white supremacy at all times.

We have to call racism out for what it is, just like the Losers called out It for what it is. That’s how they were able to defeat it. (Sorry, spoiler alert.)

What’s scary is it’s easy to forget that racism is happening if it’s not happening to you or people you know.

Is it a coincidence that the only person of the Losers Group who remembered everything that went down with It is also Black? And that the ones who forgot what happened, who were able to leave and move on with their lives, where white?

Hmm… I think only Stephen King can answer that one for us.


ALSO, TOMORROW IS ELECTION DAY. HOPEFULLY YOU’VE VOTED OR HAVE A PLAN TO VOTE TOMORROW.

DON’T MISS OUT ON HAVING YOUR VOICE HEARD AND DON’T FORGET TO VOTE DOWN THE BALLOT!

Horrified, Sympathetic, Annoyed: Feelings About Joe Goldberg from You

I just finished You and I’m working on the sequel, Hidden Bodies.

And Joe Goldberg gives me so many emotions and feelings. 

It’s quite frustrating and quite genius of the author, Caroline Kepnes. 

On one hand, I think he’s a controlling murderous scumbag. He murders those who get in the way of his love interest. 

And the stalking and stealing is creepy and horrifying, not romantic. 

He’s also super perverted, sexualizing every girl he comes into contact with. 

He’s the type I hope I never meet. 

But as the story goes on, I can’t help but feel bad for him sometimes. 

Like Beck? Yeah, I knew she was a tease and had issues. She was annoying and her friends and ex were annoying.  I wanted him to get over her so bad. 

And the people he meets in Hidden Bodies are also annoying and I felt for him when Forty took credit for his screenplays.

Sometimes I can’t take him seriously as a murderer because he makes so many mistakes. He thinks he’s so smart and yet… leaving a mug of your pee at the scene of a crime?? Smh. 

I kind of like that I have these complicated feelings for the “protagonist”. It’s good to be uncomfortable in what you read or watch so that you can evaluate your own opinions and analyze why you feel the way you do about a certain topic, situation, action, etc.  

That’s the power of reading, right?

Does anyone else have these feelings while reading this series? Any recommendations for readings that take you out of your comfort zone?

After I finish reading the sequel, I don’t have any intention of watching the show on Netflix. The books are enough for me.